The modest way of dressing for a man and women.(part-2)

From last week we were talking about one of the most important topic which is the modest way of dressing for a man and women.

In last week we talked  the hijab of the women and the way they should be. Today, we will talk few more things about it like the difference between NIQAB and hijab, and the hijab of a men and some miss conception in our socity about the mahram and non mahram.
first, Is women are supposed to cover their face too meaning should they wear niqab too?
In this context there is a little ikhtilaf with jaij/ najaiz but, all the scholar/ulamah are agreed that it is best practice to cover their face too meaning wearing NIQAB.The main fact is Allah swt. saying not to show your beauty to others except the mahram. A person’s face is a central communication center and there is a much much possibility to create fitna if a women keep open her face and This is why a group of Ulamaa saying its wajib to cover women’s their face too.

On the other hand, Those who are saying its not Wajib means not mandatory but best practice. their evidence/Dalil is in the verse of the hijab as Allah swt saying  “do not show your beauty except that part which is visible itselfs and put the headscarf on your chest” in this verse Allah swt. didnt make it clear to cover women their face as he made it clear to hide their beauty of chest. Also, its not clear that the word “except that part which is visible itself” the meaning could be included face like hands and feet.

And also, there are few hadiths that indicating that in the early time of Islam  some muslim women wasn’t used to cover their face like

1. Narrated by AYSHA Ra. She saying one day Asma binte abu bakar came to my house wearing not thick enough clothes suddenly, prophet sw. saw her but, he turn his face away while he saying “O Asma! When a girl reach her puberty she shouldnt show her beauty except this and that and he was pointing the face and hands” the hadith mantioned in abu dawood and allama albani proved this is a mursal hadith.

2.from abdullah ibn abbas describing nasaee” In the last hajj of prophet sw.young man fazal ibn abbass was with him while they were riding a camel and a girl from qath’am tribe she was asking something to prophet sw.and fazal ibn abbas was looking at that girl but, prophet swt.turned fazal’s face away” this hadith also mantioned in bukhari, muslim and abu dawood. This hadiths also indicating that the girl’s face wasnt cover thats why fazal was looking at her. And there are few more hadiths not directly but indirectly indicating the niqab wasnt compulsory.
now, what we believe means i believe that the wearing the NIQAB this is a higher status of taqwa of a women. So, our stand is we wont be strict on it but, we recomond it. We will leave on their will meaning its upto the women wether they will hide their face or not. But, if its clear that the reveling face it will create fitnah then they should wear a niqab too.
Again what we have to know as we talked in last week they have to cover themselves their hole body they should wear a hijab there are lots of  benifits of wearing a hijab like:
1. It makes differnt from the non-muslim. The hijab its identity of muslim women. the hijab identify they are muslims or not 33:59

2.the hijab Its a best protection from any kind eveteasing. 33:59

3.the hijab Its a way to protect herselves her phisycal rights.

finally, the hijab Its a way to protecting oneselves from the hellfire and having the jannah.

Now what about the modesty of the man’s clothing?
firstly, in the Qur’an and hadith mostly emphasise to cover the women themselves more than the men as the women are the main fact for the hijab. But, Islam telling to the men as well to keep  safe their modesty. Also, men has duty to keep safe themselves  from the shaytan and their family too. 24:29
How should a man dress?
1. The clothes shouldn’t be similar to the women. It is haraam for women to imitate men and men to imitate women in the way they dress. Strictly, Islam disallow the similarity of man and women. What prophet sw. Saying narreted by abdullah ibn abbas RA. “Prophet sw.saying Curse of Allah to the women those who try to be similar with a man and curse of Allah to the man those who try to be similar with a women”. (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5546).

But,unfortunately there are some muslim men or youngstar in our socaity they act or wears clothes like a girls.

2.The clothes has to be lose enough so, the body shape isn’t visible. also, the clothes has to be thick so that nothing can be seen from the outside.

3.the clothes Shouldnt drag on the floor with pride.It is haraam for the Muslim man to let any garment he wears hang down beneath his ankles (an action known as isbaal); the limit for any garment is above the ankles.

              Narrated by Abu Hurayrah (R.A) that the Prophet (pbuh) said; on the day of judgement Allah wont look at those who drag their trousers under the ankles with pride  in another narration saying   “Whatever of the lower garment is beneath the ankles is in the Fire.” (al-Bukhaari, 5450. )  another very important thing is some people pray with law trousers and short t-shirts which revels their backside while they go to ruku’ and sajood.this is very common issue and its haram. The people bihind the line they get disgusted to see that.

4.It is forbiden for men to wear pure silk and gold: there is a hadith Abu Moosa (R.A) reported that the Prophet (pbuh) said: “Gold and silk have been permitted for the females of my ummah and forbidden for the males.”  (Tirmizi)  But,The scholars allowed men to wear silk in certain exceptional circumstances like who are sick may also be permitted to wear silk to relieve their suffering, as Anas (R.A) reported that the Prophet (pbuh) allowed ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf(R.A) and Ibn al-Zubayr ((R.A) to wear silk because of a skin irritation that they suffered from. (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 10/295, and Muslim, 3/1646

 

Now, who are the poeple the mahram for a man?
firstly,the word mahram means The causes make things haram so, the mahram means those who are illegal to marry. There are 3 type of people  are haram to marry. 1.Mahram through the blood relationship. 2.Mahrams through the marriage. 3. Mahram through the breastfeeding.
in these 3 group there are 13 type of women haram to marry for a man: what Allah swt. stated in the qur’an 4:23.  “You are forbidden to marry your mothers, daughters, sisters, paternal aunts, maternal aunts, nieces, and alike 13 type of womens”

now, we will do a reallty check about the mahrams which means the Common Misconceptions in our socity today. There are some non-mahrams but we act like they are our mahram. We talk to them and go infront of them. Which is totally haram.

1. we beilive our sister in law is my mahram. But they are not and the same way brother in law are haram too. Prophet sw. has stated:“The brother-in-law is death”

2. we act our cousins are our mahrams. Specially, our youngstars  they don’t even know their cousins are not halal for them. Althogh, they can see Muslims marry cousins all the time?

3. Our sisters and women they think  khalu and pupha are mahrams. but, the khalu and fufa are not maram for them.So, the husband of aunts are not mahram.

4. there are some of us we call some people khalu or uncle  and we let our daughters sisters to go infront of them. Or we call our friends daughter/sisters bhatiji or bagni. But, they are not mahram at all.
 so, Just because you are calling someone “aunty”, “uncle”, “brother”, “sister” does NOT make them your mahram!  

Today,in our socity we think that there is nothing wrong if family members mix openly.Islam doesnt allow this But, Islam gave a nice way to communicate each-other to build up a strong relationship with muslim community.
so, We family are responsible for this type of rules. but, It should be borne in mind that these commands of Allah Ta'aala contain a lot of wisdom. So without questioning them, we should abide thereby. Today we see many marriages failing due to extra-marital affairs with so called “brothers”. A brother-in-law is considered by some women “just like my brother”. Which is totally, haram in Islam.

Dear brothers! The dressing of a modest way for a man and women it should be the way the prophet sw. And his companions wives used to wear. It wont be accepted to Allah if there is any changes come through means you can choose any clothes but if the clothes fail to meet the basic requirements  it will be rejected. What allah swt. Saying 33:36 “It is not fitting for a believing man or woman to exercise any choice in his or her own affairs once God and His Messenger have reached a decision upon them. Anyone who disobeys God and His Messenger is in manifest error”

To conclude this topic i would like remind you the word of Allah he saying 7:26,27 “O son of Adam! We have sent down to you a garment to conceal your shame, and another garment for your elegance; and the garment of piety – that is the best; this is among the signs of Allah, so that they may remember.

O son of Adam, beware! Do not let Satan put you in trial the way he removed your parents(adam and eve) from Paradise and had their garments removed so that their shame become visible to them”
May Allah sw Ta’aala grant us the true understanding of