The modest way of dressing for a man and women.(part-1)

Today, we are going to talk about one of the most important topic which is the modest way of dressing for a man and women.

Allah swt. Sent us to this world to worship him and he gave us  a guideline to lead our life in his right way and the way he commanded us. He is the commander he is the only one to command us what he saying about it 6:102 “Such is Allah, your Lord; and none is worthy of worship except Him; the Creator of all things – therefore worship Him; and He is the Trustee over all things”

So, he is our lord and deserve to command us. Today , we are talking about One of his commandment which is for the men and women to keep a distance from each other those who are not mahram meaning those who are legal to marry and Also, he saying to be careful about your modesty. What Allah swt. Commanding 24:29,30

First he commanded for the men  “ o prophet! Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them”

And then he said to the women “o prophet say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except them 1.their husbands, 2.their fathers, 3.their husband's fathers, 4.their sons, 5.their husbands' sons, 6.their brothers 7.their brothers' sons, 8. their sisters' sons, 9.their women, 10. the slaves whom their right hands possess, 11. male servants free of physical needs, 12. small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; ALLAH swt. saying Except these people do not show your beauty to others  and then Allah swt. Saying  the women should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments”

dear brothers! In this verse Allah swt is giving instruction  to maintain a  distance from any illegal relationship and Also, women cover themselves except that part which appear itself. So, what we got from this verse that Allah swt. Made it obligatory to cover  a certain part of the man and women of thier body. For a man its compulsory to cover from the knee to nevel and for a women whole of her body except her hands and feets and which parts appear itself.

Inshallah, we will continue this topic in next week as the topic is a bit bigger then our short time.Today, we will talk one part of this topic which is  how the women will cover themselves and keep thier modesty.

Before we starts to talk we have to clear one thing that the covering the women’s thier body  this obligation is not from any kind of traddition  or an custume of any nation or this is not a commandment of husband or a father. But, its a commandment from Allah swt which proving the verses we mantioned earlier. So, there is no chance to ignore/ avoid this commandment as a muslim women.because, What Allah swt. Saying 2:85 “so do you believe in some of Allah’s commands and disbelieve in some? So what is the reward of those who do so, except disgrace in this world? And on the Day of Resurrection they will be assigned to the most grievous punishment; and Allah is not unaware of your deeds”
this verse proving that the women has to cover thier body at any cost coz, there’s no chance to say im a muslim and not practicing Alla’s orders or practicing half of his commandment . this is the Allah’s commandment and there is a severe punishment for those who deny it and obey half of the command means not doing properly.
dear brothers! Another thing what we man should know If a women or girl deny or ignore wearing the hijab there are four man liable means they will be asked for that which Prophet sw. indicating in a hadith “all of you have your own  duty and on the day of judgement you will be asked for your duty”

1.Her father if the father doesnt teach her and not tell her to wear a hijab  2.her brother if the brother doesnt teach her and not tell her to wear a hijab 3. Her husband if the husband doesnt teach her and not tell her to wear a hijab 4. Her son if he son doesn’t tell her to wear a hijab.
so, this is our duty to tell our women to wear a hijab otherwise, we will be asked on the day of joudgment.

now the question is What’s the hijab the clothe most of the women wearing this day's?
the word HIAJB is a arabic word means covering, hiding etc. And the opposite  word is TABARRUJ means adultery,  sexuality etc. So, the cloth we called is  HIJAB its the cloth the women cover their head except their face means headscarf.
Today, this time the most of the women they wear the hijab  for covering themselves which we found in the Qur’an as called jilbab meaning big clothes/scarf which cover the hole body and the JILBAB used to wear by the muslim womens  at the early time of Islam. what Allah swt. Stating in the Qur’an and giving the instruction to the women how they will  cover thier body 33:59  “O Prophet,tell your wives and daughters, and the women of the faithful, to draw their wraps a little over them.They will thus be recognised and no harm will come to them. God is forgiving and kind”

How the HIJAB should be?
firstly, its very clear that Islam does allow any kind of clothes by any name to cover women’s body.
secondly, the way most of our girls and sisters wearing the hijab with jeans or shirts or tight burqa they all are failed to meet the requirments of a reall islamic HIJAB. Because,  the clothes or the HIJAB or JILBAB it should be the way the prophet sw. And his companion wives used to wear. It wont be accepted to Allah if there is any changes come through means you can choose any clothes but if the clothes fail to meet the basic requirements  it will be rejected instead of  accepted. What allah swt. Saying 33:36 “It is not fitting for a believing man or woman to exercise any choice in his or her own affairs once God and His Messenger have reached a decision upon them. Anyone who disobeys God and His Messenger is in manifest error”
There are 6 requirments  to be made sure with the HIJAB means covering the body.

1. The  clothes has to be big enough and also, the clothes has to be thick so that nothing can be seen from outside. Lots of muslim women are wearing such kind of clothes which appears some part of thier body from the outside of her clothes. There is a hadith narreted by aysha siddiqa Ra. She saying once Asma binte abu bakar came to my home with wearing a cloth not enough thik suddenly, prophet sw. Saw her and he turn his face in other way saying “O asmah! When a girl reach her puberty except her face, hands and feet nothing alse shouldn’t be showing”

2. The clothes shouldn’t be desighned with lots of works so, you dont catch peopls attention.

3. The clothes has to be lose enough  so, the body shape isn’t visible. But, in our socaity there are lots of our sisters they wear such a facinating,stylish  HIJAB or headscarf with tight jeans or tight tops which is totally, haram.

4. The clothes shouldn’t be like that the clothes men wear.strictly, Islam disallow the similarity of man and women. What prophet sw. Saying narreted by abdullah ibn abbas RA. “Prophet sw. Curse of Allah to the women those who try to be similar with a man and curse of Allah to the man those who try to be similar with a women”. But,unfortunately there are some muslim women in our socaity if you look at them they look like men.they wearing the man clothes.

5.The clothes It has to be different from the non-believers like a burqa or long dress which are different from the no- believers. There are lots of hadith that saying anything you should make difference from the no-muslim.
6. Such an unknown clothes that our muslim women dont wear. the clothes you are wearing it has to be similar to the muslim women clothes.

Dear brothers! So,its our duty to teach our sisters, daughters  from thier early times and to show them the way prophet sw and his companions wives used to dress. if we fail to maintain our duty we will be asked on the day of judgement as a husband as a father and as a brother and as a son.
so, we ask to Allah swt. May Allah give us tawfiq to teach our sisters, daughters in thier right time.